All right writers, I think it is time that you and I had another little chat. Because I have had it with being told that Sonny’s not abusive since he “just doesn’t have it in him” to hit a woman.
For one thing, the implication that abuse can only be physical is infuriating. And even worse than that, it encourages the thought process, “well, if he doesn’t hit me then it must be my problem, right?” Wrong.
For another, the idea that physical abuse is somehow “worse” than emotional or verbal abuse is also disgusting. Physical abuse is just easier to see. That doesn’t make verbal and emotional abuse less harmful or despicable.
And finally, abusers often escalate. Just because someone’s never physically hit another person before doesn’t mean it won’t get to that point in the future. Separating these two issues is inappropriate and harmful to anyone who is experiencing abuse and needing to find help.
I do appreciate that Carly mentioned she and Sonny were both emotionally and verbally abusive with one another. But she didn’t mention anything about Sonny actually changing his behavior, despite her claim that she has — which is pretty questionable, in any case, as far as I’m concerned. Sonny continues to manipulate, bully, and verbally assault the people in his life (both his enemies and those he claims to care about) to get what he wants. In real life, his behavior would be painful to those who experience them, and a clear form of abuse. Trying to split hairs about this is completely irresponsible, full stop.
Hey, here’s a thought: if you’re claiming to write a storyline that “every teen MUST watch,” don’t give them fucked up messages that with hurt them more than help.
*steps off soap box*
P.S. Kindly stop ruining one of my favorite characters by making her a deranged lunatic who’s supportive of Sonny to the extent of tampering with witnesses. (Yes, Robin, that is EXACTLY what you are doing.) Caring for Sonny is part of her character; breaking the law and acting unethically is not. And Carly throwing in a smug comment about how inappropriate Robin is (HAH!) just adds insult to injury.
In conclusion: writers, you suck.